Thursday, November 9, 2017

Post Hip Surgery Update

Haddie went in Monday for double hip surgery and everything went well. They did not have to cast her. They couldnt even put a brace on her because her little hips are so tiny...they didnt have a brace small enough. So they just positioned her using pillows. She was very sleepy on Monday and Tuesday. Plenty of pain meds to keep her comfortable. They originally said we would get out Wednesday. Kate and I know that when they give a day for discharge you might as well add 2-3 days on it. And that's been the case. Haddie tends to scare nurses with some of her Haddie-isms. One of which is her raspy breathing after eating. So they gave her a little oxygen. They didnt like when she coughed on her oral meds so they put them in her IV. So all of that is stuff we have to come back off of. They have to be safe and they don't know Haddie so we arent mad or anything. Haddie just likes to make things complicated!

She ate great yesterday and they took the oxygen off and this morning she should be off her pain pump. So if all goes well we should be discharged today they said...so we are planning on next week being discharged! Just kidding. Hopefully today we'll take our princess home and get her on the road to recovery. We don't have to worry about a brace. We'll just have to use pillows and whatnot to keep her legs from coming too far apart while she heals.

She's a tough little fighter. The hardest part is figuring out how much pain she is in or was in. She can take an awful lot. Thanks for your prayer and your love for my family. God is good.



Friday, October 20, 2017

October Blog Update and Surgery News




Been a good while since I gave an update here on life with Haddie. It's amazing how fast life goes by. I remember our first post here and how that just seemed like yesterday. And here we are with a 4 year old Haddie and a walking and chattery 1 year old named Ansley. Life moves fast.

Haddie has been making a lot of progress recently. She has been doing a lot of what we call planking. She will lay on her stomach and we will hold down her legs and butt. We will give her a little support and she will lift her head and neck all on her own. This is huge progress for her. We are hoping this leads to more and more trunk control.

Haddie has also been given the privilege of getting a Go Baby Go Car. Her therapist at Marietta Memorial selected her to be one of three students to get this car. They basically let us pick a Toys R Us battery operated car and they fit it to Haddie. The cool part is that they will install buttons that Haddie can push so she can control the car. We choose a pink Jeep. This is Haddie getting fitted for it. It will be a good therapeutic tool for her moving forward (pun intended)

We also believe she is able to express what she wants using her eyes. We will ask her yes and no questions and tell her to look one way if the answer is yes. Most of the time she answers the way we think she would. We can also hold up two objects in front of her and ask her to choose which one she wants and she will do it. We have a connection to an engineering professor who has developed an eye gaze system that allows people with ALS to communicate with their eyes. Many of them cannot control anything but their eyes so he made a program that could allow them to communicate using just that. These are people who had full function and lost it. So we wondered if he could create something for a kid who is still developing and figuring out how to function. We have begun to talk to him about developing something for Haddie. We plan to make a trip at some point to meet this guy and let him meet Haddie. We are hopeful that this could be the start of something really good for Haddie's communication in the future.

The sad news is that we have a surgery on the horizon. Had has been taking Botox shots over the past few months and these have helped loosen her up. It took a couple tries to get the right dose but it has been working good. At our last appointment the doctor asked us to get hip xrays on Haddie because she seemed tighter in the hips. The xray revealed that her right hip is dislocated and her left hip is starting to dislocate. Kids with spastic muscles like Haddie have a hard time putting pressure on the legs which in turn keeps the hips up in the socket. The only option (besides doing nothing) is a surgery where they will cut the bone and push it further into the socket. They will do this on both sides. She will need to be in a brace for 3-6 weeks afterwards...that is if she has good bones. If they have any problems they will have to put her in a cast instead. We are praying for the brace.

We have no way of telling if Haddie will ever walk. But we do know that this will prevent her from having the chance. So we are going to put her through it in order for her to have that chance. She's a tough little girl.

Her little sister continues to grow and be a light in our lives. She's a little ball of joy. She seems to get along with Haddie pretty well. She knows not to pull Haddies hair and she tries to shake Haddie's hands to get her smile. We are blessed to have these two girls in our lives. We appreciate your continued prayers and thoughts. We head in for surgery November 6th, so we'd ask for your prayers again that day. God is good.



Tuesday, April 25, 2017

Looking Back

It's amazing what can happen in 4 years. It's also amazing how fast 4 years can fly by. In high school I felt like 4 years took forever...but it really didn't. College was a blur that went by so fast. And now when I look back 4 years I'm reminded of one of the scariest and craziest days of my life. It somehow seems like a distant dream and yet at the same time like it was just yesterday.

Today is Haddie's 4th "Butt Birthday". 4 years and 4 days ago we went to Children's Hospital of Philadelphia just to get evaluated. OSU told us we had better go just in case Fetal Surgery was needed. We never imagined that we would actually need it. They ran a full days worth of tests at CHOP and told us the tumor was stable but we'd have to stay in the area and not go home. Then just 4 days later, the test showed that the tumor had grown significantly and we had a super small window of time to undergo the fetal surgery or it would be too late.

That just seems so surreal. That's the stuff you see on TV. That doesn't happen to normal people like us. But it did. And we posted about it on this blog. And you all prayed like crazy. And Haddie lived.

It's been a great 4 years with Haddie. I don't update this as often as I used to because not as much is happening. It's just normal life now with 2 kids. Haddie's development is still very slow coming...but it is coming. When we look back a year or two ago at her alertness and level of cognition...man has she improved. She loves going to Ewing school. She learns so much there and they challenge her. She also still does therapies weekly over in Marietta.

Her recent EEG shows that she still has very irregular brain waves. But for her the waves looked good. No crazy seizures like in the past. Shes still on the meds that help control those. Now many of you have asked "how does she like her sister". Ansley really likes Haddie. We aren't sure how much that is reciprocated. Mainly because ansley is loud and a little "hands-on". She likes to grab Haddies face and her hair. And Haddie likes her personal space!

What excites us the most is seeing Haddies personality. She doesnt talk. She can't move much. Yet we are learning more and more how to read her. She says a lot with her eyes. We believe she can think and has opinions. So we try and give her choices and she has to use her eyes to choose. We do not think she's just "brain dead". Her brain is just different. And it's our job to unlock that and figure her out. And that is a challenge yet at the same time a blessing.

She is here. She is alive. She is growing and progressing. And that is a miracle that we won't ever take for granted. Thank you for remembering her 4 years ago and thank you for remembering her today. We know many of you still pray for us and we cannot thank you enough. God continues to use a little 25 lb girl to change lives and encourage people. God is good.

Monday, August 29, 2016

Two Kids & Two Blogs

I realized that I made a post about Ansley Ray being born on August 1st. However, I didn't post it to Facebook. So I have put that at the bottom of this post if you'd like to read it.

This past month has been a crazy one! Ansley was born on the 1st and came home on the 4th. Shortly thereafter we noticed that Haddie wasn't acting herself. She started to get better then got worse. She was very lethargic and she got very congested. So our doctor had her admitted to Camden Clark. She was in 2 days while they gave her some antibiotics. It was either a form of pneumonia or a virus. She recovered quickly which was good because the next Tuesday Haddie started preschool!

And she loves it. She goes to Ewing School Tuesday through Friday for a half day. She comes home bright eyed and happy. There are ten other students in her class. She really seems to be maturing quickly. It's hard to say how but there's a difference in her demeanor and the look in her eye.

People ask how Haddie likes Ansley. That is hard to say. She's not a big fan of the crying. For the first couple weeks we had to keep them separate since Haddie was sick. Ansley never caught any of what Haddie had thankfully.

It's been a bit of an adjustment getting used to having two kids. Ansley is obviously different than Haddie. She cries when she wants something. She keeps us up at night sometimes. She's a normal acting baby. Which is weird for us. But it is good. We are super blessed and learning how to live with two completely different kids. Kate's mom was here for the first 3 weeks and that was a major help. The hardest part since she has left has been that Kate is not allowed to lift Haddie right now due to her C Section. Once she gets cleared on that next week I think life will be a bit easier.

Need your prayers for tomorrow. We are taking Haddie to Akron to get her first round of Botox shots in her shoulders. The doctor thinks that she is very tight in her shoulders and by shooting botox directly into the shoulder muscle it will free up her arms to have more range of motion. Her therapy will be more productive if he's right. There are some risks involved that make us a bit nervous. He could hit the wrong spot and it may hurt Haddie's neck control. He seems to think it will be fine. The effects of the Botox only last 3 months anyways so if it works we can continue. If it doesn't we can stop. So we are hoping it helps her out. We'd appreciate your prayers on that. Below is the previous blog. Hope you all have a great week! God bless!




ANSLEY RAY BLOG-
 I realized that I left some of you hanging that follow the blog! Ansley Ray was born August 1 at 1:03pm, weighed 6lbs 11oz and was 19.5 inches long. As mentioned before I knew the the date but Kate did not. Once we hit July 28th I started messing with her. Some folks said if they were Kate they would have killed me. But this is what she wanted...to be surprised and for it to be like a natural birth which is unpredictable. I had to make every day in the range (July 28-August 8) seem like it could be the day. So July 28th I drove her by Camden Clark making her think that was the day...until we went to breakfast. I did the same thing the next day. On the 1st I told her we had our weekly doctor's appointment and so I drove by Camden Clark and went around back into the parking lot of building C where her doctor is. As we started walking to the building I handed her a water balloon and a penknife to pop it. She did and I asked her what happened. She said her water broke. (Some of you who saw the video actually thought her water broke...nope...just me being goofy) So off we went to Camden Clark.

Everything went fairly well up until they started the C-section. Due to the previous two surgeries Kate had several adhesions and scar tissue. So when they opened her up they accidentally clipped a small section in her intestine. They called in a general surgeon to help with that and a few moments later Ansley was born. They fixed the issue and we got to spend some time with Ansley.

Kate recovered rather well despite being pretty sore. We came home three days later and have been enjoying time with both of our girls the past two weeks. Kate's mom has been here to help us which has been awesome!

Haddie seems to like Ansley. She looks around kind of confused when she cries. Haddie's had a little cold so we've had to keep them a part for the past couple of days.

Ansley is a pretty easy baby so far. She only cries when she's hungry or needs a change and after you take care of that she's fine.

We are very blessed to have a calm and normal pregnancy. We think Ansley and Haddie will learn from each other and will help each other out in time. Thanks for your prayers. God is good.



Monday, August 15, 2016

Ansley Ray Update

I realized that I left some of you hanging that follow the blog! Ansley Ray was born August 1 at 1:03pm, weighed 6lbs 11oz and was 19.5 inches long. As mentioned before I knew the the date but Kate did not. Once we hit July 28th I started messing with her. Some folks said if they were Kate they would have killed me. But this is what she wanted...to be surprised and for it to be like a natural birth which is unpredictable. I had to make every day in the range (July 28-August 8) seem like it could be the day. So July 28th I drove her by Camden Clark making her think that was the day...until we went to breakfast. I did the same thing the next day. On the 1st I told her we had our weekly doctor's appointment and so I drove by Camden Clark and went around back into the parking lot of building C where her doctor is. As we started walking to the building I handed her a water balloon and a penknife to pop it. She did and I asked her what happened. She said her water broke. (Some of you who saw the video actually thought her water broke...nope...just me being goofy) So off we went to Camden Clark.

Everything went fairly well up until they started the C-section. Due to the previous two surgeries Kate had several adhesions and scar tissue. So when they opened her up they accidentally clipped a small section in her intestine. They called in a general surgeon to help with that and a few moments later Ansley was born. They fixed the issue and we got to spend some time with Ansley.

Kate recovered rather well despite being pretty sore. We came home three days later and have been enjoying time with both of our girls the past two weeks. Kate's mom has been here to help us which has been awesome!

Haddie seems to like Ansley. She looks around kind of confused when she cries. Haddie's had a little cold so we've had to keep them a part for the past couple of days.

Ansley is a pretty easy baby so far. She only cries when she's hungry or needs a change and after you take care of that she's fine.

We are very blessed to have a calm and normal pregnancy. We think Ansley and Haddie will learn from each other and will help each other out in time. Thanks for your prayers. God is good.



Thursday, July 28, 2016

Baby Time


Is it time for a new baby? Well not yet. Sorry if I got your hopes up. Well not really, it's kind of fun messing with people!

In case you didn't know, Kate is pregnant. Like, very pregnant. 37 weeks today. That's 10 weeks longer than our previous record with Haddie! And today marks the beginning of the possible dates that "Pacman" might come.

Kate has always hated the idea of having to pick a baby's birth date. I think she's always liked the idea of it being a surprise. Haddie's birth was anything butt normal (pun intended) and this time around I think Kate really wanted to experience this as close to normal as possible. Because of the fetal surgery though, Kate is not allowed to go into labor. So we knew eventually the doctor would ask us to pick the date. And two weeks ago she did just that. She said they would want us to make it to 37 weeks (today) but they wouldn't want Kate to go any further than August 8th. So we had to pick a date in that time frame.I told the doctor we'd get back with her on that. And that's when the wheels started turning in my head.

So I proposed the crazy idea to Kate: what if I knew the date but didn't tell her. I'd find a way to make it that she wouldn't know until the day of. And what's crazier than that idea is that Kate agreed. Kate "I Love To Have My Plans" Williams agreed. I got the doctor and nurses on board and picked the date.

And here we are. Some folks have started taking bets. On the date. On the gender (which neither one of us knows) and the two names we picked out (which we ain't telling).

We are very blessed and excited to get to experience this. If you want some insider information before placing your bets there's one person you can ask...and that's Haddie. I've told her to keep the date a secret. Give her some ice cream or chocolate and she might tell you.

 We'll post again when Pacman arrives. God is good.


Monday, May 9, 2016

What Were You Doing 3 Years Ago?

What were you doing three years ago at this time? We were gathered around a table with family. It was a satisfying evening. We ate together and played a board game together. Kate and I had been in the Children's Hospital of Philadelphia for about two weeks. We had a lot of highs and lows in those two weeks. The highest being that the fetal surgery to save our daughters life was successful. The lowest being that somewhere after a week had passed our daughter had a level 4 brain bleed on both sides of the brain.

Even though we were in New Jersey and not Belpre, it was good to be with family and not in a hospital. Little did we know what the next day would bring.

Hadassah decided it was time to make her grand appearance. The doctors tried to stop Kate's contractions but they wouldn't stop. So we had to deliver. Who knew that the the next hour would be such a defining one in our lives. Doctors came in and told us the odds weren't good and asked us some hard questions about resuscitation and other impossible things to answer like that. They tried to prepare us for the worst. That's their job and I don't hold it against them. But it was our job to have some faith in a God who can do whatever he wants with 2lb 7oz baby. And so He did.

And here I sit 2 years 364 days later in a chair and I look at a little girl who has come a really long way. She's taking baby steps. No, she's not walking...yet. But she is progressing. And that's more than we could ever ask for. She's going to go to preschool in the fall. She's going to be a big sister in the fall. She has friends. She has a personality. And we marvel at what God will do in her and through her next.

Haddie in her stander. She can stay in it for over
an hour and can stay at almost 90 degrees for
20 minutes of that without her head
flopping over. Progress!
And I imagine 3 years ago at this time I know what some of you were doing. You were praying. Praying for us. Praying for a miracle. Praying that God would bring us through it all. And we can't thank you enough for those prayers. God is good. All the time.